I wrote this piece on January 6, 2016. One of those posts I “perfected” and never published. You can learn more about that story here.
Ever experienced a deep, hollow, and sickening feeling in your stomach? Or a sudden sweep of nausea that comes out of no where?
C’mon, raise your hand if you’ve had this feeling. I know I experience both, and right now, my hands are sweating like hell.
And my hands rarely sweat.
Today, Ive done quite a few things outside the usual. I’m currently in a coffee shop, and I came here with the goal of doing work that matters.
Makes no sense? Trust me, it makes no sense to me either.
A few minutes ago, I picked up the local Entrepreneur magazine near the condiments table, and just read through it. As I read, I came across an advertisement for social media management services. It was from a company I never heard of before, so naturally, I made a quick Google search. It was weird – I had a hard time finding them on Google. When I found them . . . it was even weirder. I was sent to a web page that redirected to itself when I clicked on any links. I couldn’t find a strong social media presence either. All too weird for me.
Anyways! The advertisement had a name and email address that you could contact. So I thought, “What if I email them offering help?”
Thought after thought, it came in.
“Reinart, you’re gonna tell an established (their ad design was good) digital marketing company that you can help them? What do you think of yourself? You don’t know shit about social media marketing.”
“You thick-faced, arrogant piece of human being thinks you can help them out? What skills do you have right now? Nothing! What the hell can you do for them?”
That was two of the many. Of course, I wasn’t saying this out loud in the coffee shop. THAT would be pretty humiliating.
It was all in my head. And most of the time, that’s when it hurts and scares us the most.
Every time you try to do something that is outside the ordinary, something that scares the little shits out of you, your body is going to react. It’s going to create a hole in the pits of your stomach. It’s going to make the world turn around you. It’s going to make your hands sweat. And that’s only the physical part.
Emotionally and mentally, it drains you too. The night before a meeting with your biggest client, you feel excited. But with the excitement usually comes doubt. Will I say the right thing? Will I close this deal? Will I get the job?
I’m here to tell you it doesn’t matter. You’re always going to be scared. You’re always going to doubt yourself. There’s the 0.001% who can get over this, but people like you and I simply can’t.
And that’s okay.
Doing the uncomfortable makes you, well, uncomfortable. Every single time, fear will try to eat you up and stop you from taking the leap. Don’t let it. What’s the worse that could happen?
After all those self-depreciating thoughts went through my head I realized, “What the hell am I going to lose by sending an email to a person that doesn’t even know me?” I manned up, opened my Gmail, composed a message (and effectively made the keyboard pretty wet), and hit the send button.
I have no idea how it will turn out. I don’t know if I’ll get a thank you, or a message that laughs (metaphorically) at me, and ridicules me for offering help to an established company like theirs.
But you know what?
I don’t care. At least I tried.
You should too.
Hit your send button.
Also, for those wondering, that agency never replied to me. They probably didn’t exist. See? You don’t lose anything when you take action. I spent minutes sweating my hands off and it was absolutely no use. Of course, it could’ve been worse. But that’s the “could’ve”. Never think of “could’ve”. Think of now. Think of what you can do today. That will move you forward.